If you give her this money, you might buy temporary peace in an already painful parent-child relationship.
But if this new attempt doesn’t bring the desired result, will you be expected to cash out more? That kind of pressure only deepens parental guilt and creates long-term fear that can follow families for years.
Tell her you love her. Tell her you’re scared for her.
Tell her you can’t give more money, but you won’t disappear.
Bright Side
Fertility treatments are NOT your responsibility. You have already risked keeping the roof over your head.
Just STOP. I doubt your daughter and son in law plan to pay back the $36,000 you already paid. They can look into fostering or adopting or remaining childless.
Those costs are on them.
Family financial pressure doesn’t always involve fertility struggles—sometimes it’s the opposite. One reader refused to give $10K to her pregnant sister and was labeled ungrateful. Years later, a shocking email revealed her parents had been lying to her all along: I Refuse to Help My Pregnant Sister, and I Don’t Feel Guilty
