We recently married and are residing with my husband’s mom until we can afford to move out. She says my husband sleeps in her room instead of ours because they always have. I felt stunned and uneasy.
He sees no problem. She was angry and folding my clothing and throwing them in a garbage bag on the porch when I got home one night. I stood paralyzed, keys in hand.
She looked like she caught a raccoon in her pantry. “You don’t do anything around here,” she said. “You sleep all day, eat my food, and disrespect our home.”
I worked two split shifts at a neighborhood café, usually from 6 a.m.
to nearly midnight. I barely had energy to wash my face, let alone generate drama. Mirza, my husband, emerged behind her, wiping his eyes like he’d awakened up.
“Mom’s upset,” he grumbled. You should apologize.”
That was my first thought: Maybe I erred. Mirza and I met during the pandemic.
The nice, soft-spoken man helped his neighbors with groceries. We talked about our future on lengthy walks. Getting married at the courthouse felt right.
But moving home with his mother, Gul, altered everything. On her third espresso, she ran the home like a ship captain. Rules included no cooking after 7 p.m., no shoes (except hers), and no bedroom door closing until you were inside.
It looked like a guest room in our bedroom. Twin bed. No closets.
She shouted, “Mirza, time to rest!” from her bedroom every night at 9. Off he went. I initially believed it was a joke.
Unknown cultural tradition. After the second week, I discovered it was ongoing. “She’s older.
“She gets lonely,” he said. “I’ve done this since childhood. It relaxes her.”
To be honest, it scared me.
A boundary-less, not wicked, way. I tried patience. I made dinner, folded laundry, and gave her a scarf and scented lotion I got on sale on her dresser.
Nothing softened her. It worsened things. She advised me to stop using the upstairs bathroom one morning.
“It’s for family,” she said. “I am family,” I told her, laughing. Her smile was absent.
I found all my toiletries in a plastic supermarket bag beneath the laundry room sink later that day. I requested Mirza to defend me. Just sighed.
You know she’s been through a lot. She lost Dad young. All she has is me.”
I wanted to shout, What am I?
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