What We Never Said
I married my first husband, Mark, when I was twenty years old. We were not in love, exactly. We were expected.
Our families had vacationed together for decades. They served on the same charitable boards, attended the same galas, exchanged holiday cards taken by professional photographers, and had, by the time Mark and I were teenagers, been subtly maneuvering us toward each other the way people manage a real estate transaction: with patience, with long-range planning, and with the comfortable certainty that the outcome was already decided. I walked down the aisle in a dress my mother had selected.
She had exquisite taste. I did not have much say in the matter. Everyone said we were a perfect match, and for a while we believed them, because when a story about you is told consistently enough and by enough people, it is very difficult to locate the place inside yourself where a different story might live.
We had the manicured lawn and the professionally photographed Christmas cards and the dinner parties where we smiled through three courses and said nothing of consequence to each other for years. We did not fight. That was the problem, or one of them.
You can fix a fight. You can at least identify it, name it, give it edges and corners and work along those edges until something gives. Silence has no edges.
Silence fills a house like water, level and patient and cold, and you only notice how thoroughly you have been submerged when you try to breathe and cannot. After seventeen years of that particular kind of drowning, we signed papers. Our parents were quietly horrified.
What happened next changed everything… FULL STORY on the next page.
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