My mother called me the night before my wedding to tell me she had changed her mind about coming.
I was sitting on the edge of the hotel bed with my veil hanging on the closet door and my bridesmaids in the next room doing whatever bridesmaids do the night before a wedding, which in this case involved wine and a card game I had not been paying enough attention to follow. My phone lit up with her name and I stepped into the bathroom and closed the door because I already knew, from the timing and the specific way my chest tightened when I saw her name, that the call was going to require privacy.
She said she had been thinking about it and she did not feel she could watch me marry James knowing that I had chosen him over the family.
I sat on the edge of the bathtub.
“I’m not choosing him over the family,” I said. “I’m marrying him.”
“He has not been respectful of our values,” she said.
“He has been respectful of mine,” I said.
“He takes you away from us,” she said.
“Mom,” I said. “I moved to Portland three years ago. That was my choice. James didn’t move me anywhere.”
“You changed when you met him,” she said.
“I grew up,” I said.
She did not respond immediately.
I looked at the bathroom ceiling. Through the wall I could hear my best friend Cara’s laugh, the particular one she made when she was winning at something, and I held onto that sound while I waited for my mother to say the next thing.
“I love you,” she said. “But I can’t watch you make this mistake.”
“It’s not a mistake,” I said.
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