She has accused me of internalizing the problem and not bringing it up .
I told her I had trusted her fully so there was no reason to bring it up.
I took issue with her suggesting it was on me to interrogate and bring forth the truth as disingenuous.
She had ample opportunity to bring it up before now but has hidden the truth to get the life she wanted/wants. She’s now heart broken and is insisting I’m not doing enough to save our marriage, in her mind she’s doing everything she can.
Counselor, books, suggesting outings together.
For me, I can’t stand to look at her and the pushy-ness from her feels self serving. Like she’s trying to manipulate me to stay for herself, not that she actually loves me
There are other normal marriage issues, money/kids/house stuff, but I can’t get over this one.
Am I the asshole? I’d like to hear an assessment
