The birthday dinner was my idea.
I want to own that, because it matters to what happened next. Nobody pressured me into hosting it. My daughter-in-law Serena did not suggest it, my son Martin did not hint at it, and my grandchildren were too young to have opinions about dinner parties. I looked at my calendar in late January and I thought: the whole family together, good food, my kitchen, Saturday the seventh. I called Martin and told him, and he said that sounded wonderful, and I could hear the genuine warmth in his voice that I had always loved in him, the warmth his father had had too.
I made lasagna and a green salad and bread I baked myself on Saturday morning with the children underfoot. My kitchen is the one room in my house where I am unambiguously competent, and I find it calming to do a long project there while small people eat dried fruit from a bowl on the counter and ask me questions I answer with half my attention. Oliver was five. Clara was three. They sat on the stools with the seriousness of children who have been told something special is happening and want to be worthy of it.
Serena arrived with a bottle of wine and a salad she had made, which I appreciated even though I had already made one. We put both on the table. Martin carried things from the car. My other son Patrick was there with his partner James, and my daughter Meg drove in from Portland with her husband Terry. It was the fullest the house had been since the previous Christmas, and for the first hour everything felt exactly the way I had hoped it would feel: warm and loud and right.
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